Unclear Fallout

An unclear fallout is when you stop being friends with someone but you don’t quite know what happened. There was never a dramatic confrontation or a formal parting. Instead, you are left with a residual feeling of unreciprocated affection.

Ghosting is a modern term, but people have been failing to reply to letters since the invention of literacy. I like the word though because it contains within it the idea of being haunted by the mystery of what went wrong.

Maybe the friend doesn’t have time. Maybe they didn’t get your messages. Maybe they no longer like you and what you represent. Maybe you did something egregious that you can’t recall or which wasn’t done with ill intentions. It’s easy to generate stories in your head, especially when it feels more painful to confront the person directly.

 
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